If there is one thing that the past few days has taught me it’s that people will judge you regardless, hindsight is always clearer and there are many things that should have been done differently. However, one regret is the collateral damage. People who get hurt because of your actions. Point the gun at my head nalang sana.
People always surprise you, in good ways and in bad. Friends are reliable and sometimes friends disappoint but as a “wise man” once said “people are not their weakest moments”. It’s so easy to judge on the basis of one act…but that’s not necessarily what defines you. Shouldn’t it be the good things and the bad?
People have been calling her a bitch (even herself) and maybe she is, sometimes. But she is also a caring, nurturing and a loyal (yes, loyal) person. “People are not their weakest moments”…good people once in a while do bad things, friends once in a while disappoint, nice people are sometimes bad, and people will always surprise you. She is a warrior but I will always have her back…so leave her alone…point the gun at me – I’m the prick.
The best lessons in life are learned the hard way. And one more cliché - there are always 2 sides to a story.
I am definitely less judgmental now.
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Dude, please... We ARE our weakest moments. We also are our strongest ones, our most valiant, most heroic ones. But we ARE our weakest, most cowardly, most idiotic moments too. There's no point in denying it, really. Believing that we aren't our weakest moments offers us a reprieve from guilt or even self-loathing, but it's a fantasy.
Some drunk-ass dude has tons of problems... ends up drinking day in and day out... comes home to his wife and kids and terrorizes the shit out of them. In his most desperate hours, he beats up his wife. That makes him a wife beater right?
Whatever you did wrong, own up to it man. It's not like there's no redemption. You are your weakest moment.
oh i see, we have one of the women (or men) from the park visiting...
I take it you believe this "you are not your weakest moment" line too. sorry to rain on your parade... i just don't buy it. the more we deny it, the more we're bound to repeat the lessons we refuse to learn. such, after all, is how life works.
like i said, it's not like there's no redemption. but that's something you'll have to work for, and i guess that's why it's so much easier to believe that we're not our weakest moments. so party on.
Point for point and trying not to be too defensive…
I think what you are basically saying is that our actions define us. Of course this is true, but think about this…people who are able to do the “right” thing during weak moments (all the time) are good but they are also fantasies. People who do the wrong thing at these times not are not bad…they / we are normal and also real. But this is not a constant state of being. Sometimes we do good and other times we do bad. I/we did a bad thing, but this does not make us bad people. So you see “we are not our weakest moments”.
People say they thought I was a nice guy because for 8 years I behaved “nicely”…but now I am a prick. Don’t get me wrong I don’t define myself as nice…this is how people defined me. Now I am an asshole. No excuses…I / we are not looking for reprieve from self-loathing, and God knows guilt is eating us up…but “we are not our weakest moments”.
The same drunk-ass dude “wife beater”, goes to therapy, stops drinking, dedicates the rest of his life to being the best father in the world…is he his weakest moment?
By saying “we are not our weakest moments” does not mean there is no guilt, it does not mean we do not take accountability for our actions and do not believe major karma is coming our way. But you are right…there is redemption…and that is exactly why I / we are not our weakest moments.
Hehe!!! Maybe that sould have been another blog entry:-) haba pala.
no worries, anonymous. no raining on my parade here. parade doing so fine, it's unbelievable. :)
anyhoo, it's so easy for me to accept that people are not their weakest moments because i've met so many wonderful, beautiful people who have done such bad things, or have gone through so much shit in the past. and it's nowhere near who they really truly are. so hard for me to sum up who they are with the bad and the bad only. i feel we're too complex and too beautiful to be put in a box and be defined by just that.
or maybe i've been hanging out with the wrong crowd. heheh.
but i wouldn't have it any other way though. i love my people. now more than ever. weakest moments included.
Caye, I sense severe denial of / confusion about how much a particular wrong-doing says about you... you keep saying you're not your weakest moment, but if you look closely, you'll see that you're basically repeating what I first said. We are our weakest moments, just as we are our strongest moments too. They all define us. I wouldn't also agree with anyone denying that they're not their strongest moment after all. They only alternatingly become more vivid in defining us (e.g. the wife beater who eventually reforms) but never really stop doing so.
Ask any alcoholic and he'll say the best way to stop drinking is remember that you're an alcoholic. You say you want to stop being a prick? Then keep remembering your propensity to be one.
Add to that of course eternal remorse towards people you may have wronged.
Hay! Anyway, I guess that makes me an occational prick who is mostly a stand-up guy. I'll take that. Thanks.
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